GS: Yeah. Wow. And listen, you're also one of the rare people too who actually has a degree in marketing, which I don't see an awful lot. I'm kind of curious, though, given all the experience you have, especially with the international, is there some point in time where you've gotten what you thought was really exceptional advice? Can you recall a great piece of insight that somebody gave you? It could have been something you read maybe, but that somebody shared with you an experience. You have such a diversity of cultures there that you've dealt with.
AW: I think on diversity and culture, the biggest piece of advice that I got... And Nissan, when I took my first foreign assignment in Japan, they actually had me meet for an entire day with a sociologist. And they were there to help get me ready to come into a completely different culture. It was fascinating.
GS: Very smart.
AW: And I really, really appreciated it. Thank you, Nissan. But she told me... And she's an expert in working in Japan and also with female leaders because the gender dynamics here are quite different. She told me, she goes, "Whatever made you successful in Europe and in the US is not going to work in Japan."
GS: Just flat out.
AW: And I was like, go on. My flight is in a week. What am I going to do?
GS: What did she mean by that?
AW: She meant that it is such a different culture that in the US and in Europe, we lead from the front. Leaders lead from the front and the teams follow you. You can give feedback in the moment, you can coach in the moment. And that's constant, ongoing performance feedback. And in Japan you have to do what's called push from the side.
And you need to give the teams a direction and what the vision is, and then they need to figure out how to get there. It's really important for the teams to buy in because if they don't, it collapses. They don't respond to top-down mandates. So you have to find this balance of giving direction, giving them enough room and empowering them to find their own way, and then kind of pushing from the side to make sure that they stay on track. It's a very different style, and I think it's something that I have to constantly work out even as I've come back because top-down things, they have a way of imploding. If the team either doesn't understand or they don't agree with it, they'll never say that to you because it's also a very hierarchical culture. And so you fall into these traps a little bit, and so you have to find your way out of them. And I also think when I came back to the US after I was in Japan the first time, the learnings of that really still held true even in a US culture.
And what I realized was that I was a much better communicator than when I left the US. And because I was in a situation where every day there's a language barrier, there's a cultural barrier, and I started to train myself to think how to lead and how to manage. So how to better communicate projects or direction, how to be really clear, how to motivate the teams around this kind of pushing from the side. And so I was able to bring that back when I went back to the US and the teams there were like, "You give really clear direction." I didn't realize that I had built up this muscle.
GS: What does it mean to give extra clear direction? I mean, I assume all managers think they're doing a good job. I know they're not, and I know I'm not. Okay, let's just be clear about that.
AW: I work on it every day. I think we all work on it. This is one thing that I firmly believe. I think as leaders, people leaders, you're going to make mistakes every day.
GS: Every day.
AW: I don't think that there's an angle. I don't think there's a perfect leader. I've relieved myself of that. And now I just try to be better. And if I make mistakes, I don't beat myself up. It's like you were too whatever in this situation. Just be better, be better tomorrow.
GS: I have a psychologist on retainer here for the MMA, so I'm a big believer in your sociologist thing. People just need help. You need to connect it. And especially we try to move pretty fast on things. And I said to him one time, I said, "I think what I'm doing is I'm just a CEO of a small company." Nothing compared to a Nissan, of course, or anything like that. But I said, "I'm just trying to be a little better every day like you would at golf." Because you're never perfect at golf and the game changes and the terrain changes and each hole is different, and you're never perfect. But you're in a pursuit of perfection, but never coming close as far as I'm concerned.
AW: I completely agree, and I refer to myself as a recovering perfectionist.
GS: Oh, funny. Yeah.
AW: It was really my time in Japan, I really failed a lot. And it was culture failure, it was a communication failure. It was personal life failure. I was working crazy hours, just global jobs can be kind of a grind sometimes.
GS: Totally.
AW: But I failed a lot. And as somebody who had been pretty successful in their career up to that point, it was super humbling. And I had to sit with it for a little bit and just realize this is not about perfection, actually. This is about learning. It's about progress, and stop beating yourself up about it. What did you learn? And move on.
GS: And it sounds like some of those concepts... So you've been made a better executive by the experience of having, at some level, to be so sensitive or nuanced to what's happening with you there in a new culture, whether that be Amsterdam or maybe Japan. Then all that served you well within the times you've had either come back to the US or otherwise.
AW: Yeah, exactly. And I think it's because I've thrown myself into uncomfortable situations and had to work my way out of them. And how do I succeed? How do I drive value? How do I build a great team in something that I don't know? There's no playbook, and there's resistance and all these things. And so I've realized, and I have an article series on LinkedIn that I write, Outside the Comfort Zone, because I really feel like that helped me. I grew more and I developed more in the two years that I was in Japan than probably my entire career up until that point, just because of this absolutely failing and the recovery from that.
GS: And when you say that, are you speaking specifically your first time in Japan? Is that what you're saying?
AW: Yeah, that is. And I think there was so much development that came, and I would say coming back the second time, the culture shock is different. It's still there, but I'm aware of what the situations are and when I encounter them, I already have tools that I can try to work my way through.
GS: I admire you doing that. I was at Y&R for many years. I did a lot of work with Y&R Dentsu, and I went to Japan a lot. And at some point after I left Y&R, I had Dentsu call me a lot to come and do consulting work. And I'll tell you, you're a better person than me. I eventually backed away from it because what I found — I'm enamored by cultures and their idiosyncrasies, I don't want to diminish them — but I found in working with Japanese, I never knew what was going on. I had great difficulty, I couldn't read the signals. And for me, that was very difficult. I'm very good and nuanced in my own culture. I get it. I run a trade association, that is a lot of politics to manage. But I never felt like I knew, and I didn't have the time or the immersion you did to do that. So I would find that very interesting. But it's hard for any culture, I think.
AW: It is hard. The meetings are never the meetings, the decisions are kind of made outside of that. It's very difficult to have direct discussions because culturally that's not really accepted. You have to be very careful.
And I'm naturally a direct person. And then also working with German brands who are very direct, the Dutch are very direct. I'm American, I'm very direct, and you have to make sure that you don't disrupt or create an environment where there isn't a safe space. Again, I make mistakes all the time and I still do, but it's like the quick recovery. And I have an executive coach that I've been working with for a few years. And now I have one that specializes in Japanese culture, and it's kind of like the pause, how do you frame things when you're trying to provide critical feedback, and if something isn't meeting your expectations, again, how do you push from the side?